I Am Pro-Life: The Most Intense Post I Have Ever Written

I have had some thoughts on my heart for a while, thoughts which I have only recently begun to process more intentionally as I have found myself in a circle (specifically, a Catholic circle) where dialogue around this issue is raging more than my usual circles. I want to tread carefully, first acknowledging that I am [obviously] not perfect and that my thinking stems from the standard that I desire to hold myself to and that I feel the Lord is calling me to. It is not necessarily the one I am perfectly living out, though by the grace of God I will become such a person…someday. Ojalá. The soapbox I preach from is the same level ground that you also stand on, and I hope to convey my thoughts both humbly and earnestly, not pointing fingers but also not watering down what is so strongly on my heart. These days I feel glimpses of what some around me know as the Sacred Heart of Jesus…glimpses of the immeasurable love and passion with which the Savior loved and loves the world. It is for this reason that I write. I also hope that in reading what follows, you come with an open mind and heart, taking from it what you can and knowing that I write lovingly and passionately both for myself and whoever decides to read these words. In the end, though, this post is not about me writing it or you reading it. It is about both of us as passionate lovers of God and of humanity living it. There is absolutely no value to what I am about to say if we do not walk forward, acting in humility and love. 

Here it goes. In prayer. In love. In humility.

I have recently found myself in several discussions with various people about the topic of abortion. Understandably, it is a difficult and painful topic. While the issue is very close to all Christian hearts, it is especially strong in the presence of the Catholic community, of which I am currently a part of. First off, the passion is both beautiful and admirable. There is something to be said about the fervor with which people desire to come to the rights of the helpless. Scientifically, to my understanding and to the understanding of most people who have ever studied human anatomy and biology, it is difficult to say that the act of abortion is not terminating some form of human life. In the words of many, to put it not-so-lightly, it is murder. You would be hard-pressed to find many people who would negate the biology of it, though some argue the use of the term murder as they may or may not yet consider the impregnated egg a “human life.” That is not what I am here to argue. For this purpose, I am simply stating the opinion of--at the very least--a great deal of Christians.

In their passion for justice, as certain people – certain Christians – fight for the rights of the unborn, they sometimes do so violently. Where I grew up, Christian picketers were notorious for standing on the side of major intersections and in front of women’s clinics holding massive signs featuring huge, gory, bloody fetuses. In doing so, they were fighting violence with more violence, with shock value, succumbing to the societal myth of redemptive violence. They settled for less than the gift of love that they are free to give and receive as true followers of the Way of Christ. Similarly, on my Evangelical college campus last year a “pro-life” (I prefer anti-abortion…more on that to come) group was passing out small rubber fetuses to students. They felt just as one would imagine a real fetus feeling. It was disturbing. Again…shock value. Violence. 

Now I ask: How often do we as Christ-followers settle for this way of life? Why do we go with the relative ease of creating literature, of donating money to “causes” which “fight for life,” of dealing with the world the same way the world deals with us: violently? How often do we choose the simplicity of pointing to the “problem”—abortion—without truly looking at its causes—lack of education, socioeconomic factors, abuse, neglect, fear, patriarchy, poverty, etc.—and instead becoming a people of deep, loving, systemic change? Do we not pray each day “Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven”? What is stopping us from realizing that, by the grace of God?

The Black Eyed Peas nail it: “Where is the love?”

Are we not called to more?

It is here that I will attempt to articulate my thoughts as they currently stand. Well, they’re kind of swimming, really. They are evolving, as always, but they undoubtedly arise out of a deep-seeded need I have to seek and to live out this extreme love which we as Christ-followers are called to emanate. Again, I’m not perfect. I’m in process.

Simply put, though, my heart is this: The Way of love calls us to be pro-life, not exclusively anti-abortion.

To be fair, I am sure that I am not the first lover of Christ to ever articulate this. Actually, I know I am not.  Before you suggest that I am a murderer of innocents, though, please, let me explain. Again, in love. Love and humility. I’m trying here. Hear me out.

First off, I am trying more and more to be an optimist, or, in the very least, to find hope in situations that seem hopeless. I am learning to find alternatives to the "anti" way of thinking. I mean…of course I am still “anti” things in theory, but I am coming to believe it’s better to find a healthy alternative--something to be for--than to just fight against something all the time.  You know…I am more “pro veggies” than “anti meat” or “pro giving” than “anti money.” Those kinds of things. Fighting against something all the time is exhausting, really. Of course, it’s all a slow process, but God is gracious with me. I feel that the “anti” attitude is often what leads us—no matter how well-intentioned we may be—to settle for the easier way, the more violent way, as I demonstrated earlier with the lovely examples revolving around bloody fetuses. I also feel that an “anti” attitude leads us into the pitfall of black and white thinking, of seeing a situation as ever only having two possible outcomes. Do we not serve a God who is greater than that? 

While I do believe that abortion is murder, I am hesitant to march against it full speed ahead and banners blazing (too Crusade-like, if you ask me, and that time period was already bloody enough). That's not the Christ I serve. The shrapnel in such a campaign is only more pain, only more bloodshed. As we “fight abortion”—violence with violence—we lose as casualties the mothers who feel lost and incapable of raising a child. We lose the mothers who just aren’t ready to have kids and who forgot to take their birth control that one night. We lose those who have been raped. We lose the kids with sexually transmitted infections. We lose the kids who end up in the foster care system later on in life. We lose the kids who will grow up on Section 8, on WIC, on TANF, on Medicaid, on Food Stamps, on SSI, on child support. 

So rather than be anti-abortion, rather than risking the potential of losing all or some of the aforementioned people as casualties in this war against murder, let us instead choose to be pro-life. Rather than pick up our picket signs and throw our rubber fetuses, let us instead take to the streets with kind words and hugs. Let us not stop at donating money. Let us instead care for the orphans and the widows. Let us bring the foster children—the ones who were not aborted—into our homes. Let us invest in sex education that tackles the tough stuff rather than dust it all under the rug in the name of Christian purity. Let us direct our energy towards tearing down the systems of patriarchy and ignorance that contribute to unwanted and crisis pregnancies in the first place. Let us empower our society’s females so that they feel able to raise their own children, and let us empower our men to stay alongside their partners in the process. Let us come alongside the pastor’s daughters, the prostitutes, the girls-next-door, and those from the projects as they chose life for their children. Let us build walls of love and protection around these brave women, and let us also love the women who chose to abort. Let us hold our men as accountable as their partner in these decisions, but do not let the male politicians have the last word because, let’s be real, they don’t have vaginas. Let us not feel as if we must resort to utilizing the State’s power to control this. Let us instead love so much that the State is not the final word. Let us not shy away from the grunt work, from the long and arduous hours that we must invest if we are to truly be pro life.

And let us realize that to be pro life—to be God’s hands and feet as the Kingdom of God descends on this Earth—requires an acutely keen sense of the kindred life that we share with the rest of humanity. To be pro life is to fight for life on all fronts. It is to be pro peace, pro love, pro creation. It is to look at the systems we have created—the systems of oppression that stifle life—and to realize our part in perpetuating those systems. We are guilty of human trafficking, of slavery, of killing others of thirst and of hunger, of dropping bombs, of poisoning the poor with our garbage and our chemicals. We are implicit in the murder of millions each day. Abortion is only the most obvious to us as we have allowed globalization to distance us from the gravity of the rest of the world's plight.

Let us pray that our hearts be broken--shattered even--by the reality of the loss of life surrounding us.

And then let us move into action.

We begin, by the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, to realize that we are called to something greater. The world is great at being “anti” everything. The world is great at perpetuating violence, and too often we as Christians go right along with that, saying we are “anti abortion” but “pro war on terrorism.” The horrific irony of that statement is lost on so many of us. The myth of redemptive violence is so tantalizing that we do not realize it even in its most subtle forms. Serpents are slippery. I’m as guilty as anyone, feisty little thing that I am. I love a good fight…

But we are followers of the Way. The Way is different. The Way is Love. And the Way should have us imagining better ways to pour into the lives of others. Abortion should not be the issue. Rather, let our love speak first. Let our love shout joyously and contagiously from the rooftops of city buildings, not just in the steeples and sanctuaries or in the homes of our like-minded kin. Let our love run rampant.That, sisters and brothers, is where the real change will begin. The rest, by the grace of God, will follow.